A person with extensive experience on a path of spiritual growth is likely to find themselves in a place that, to a casual observer, may appear much the same as a conventional position. Movement into awareness occurs not in a straight line, but in a spiral: You move around a circle that winds upward, finding yourself in a position that may look similar to the one below it, but offers a significantly broader view. From the perspective of another person, however, it may appear that you haven't moved at all.
When observing others, it often is easy to see when they are traveling a path you already have traveled. If they ask for advice and genuinely want to hear the answer, you may be able to spare them some pitfalls. If not, you can be assured they will derive benefit from those pitfalls, just as you did.
It is harder to recognize when someone is on a higher "rung" of the spiral than you are. It may seem that they don't understand something when they have, in fact, transcended it. Many's the time that a veteran spiritual seeker has been pounced on by a helpful newbie who has just discovered the Abraham-Hicks material! As a general principle, it's true that focusing on the positive (what you want, not what you don't want) is most beneficial. But it's okay to tell a joke, convey an anecdote about a challenging experience, or vent about a difficult person.
What is important is not the words or actions themselves, but the energy being expressed. Releasing energy in a burst of tears or anger is different from dwelling on past hurts when nothing constructive can be done about them. Pursuing legal action against someone who has broken an agreement may be more beneficial than "turning the other cheek" (or pretending to), if that's what your heart or your gut tells you is the right thing to do.
There also are great leaps of logic made by those who have read all the right materials and attended the seminars, but haven't applied the ideas in a practical fashion. For instance, the fact that we attract the type of energy we express doesn’t mean that we should trust everyone implicitly. At most of those "love, light, and healing" seminars, the organizers require people to register, pay a fee, and wear badges to prove they have done so. They don't open their doors to everyone, and neither should most of us.
At a high enough rung of the spiral (which is marked by high levels of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-trust), there is great freedom to express and experience in any way one chooses, with little attachment to particular outcomes. But higher isn't better! It's important to recognize where you are in any given moment and make choices accordingly.
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